May 11, 2026 · 5 min read
I used to measure my days by how much I got done.Laundry sorted, kitchen cleaned, emails answered, kids bathed, lunches prepped for tomorrow. If the list was mostly ticked off by 9pm, it was a good day. If I sat down before it was finished, if I chose to read a book or do nothing in particular there was always a quiet voice telling me I hadn't earned it yet.I suspect I'm not alone in this. Parenting culture has a complicated relationship with rest. We celebrate busy. We compare schedules. We...
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Apr 26, 2026 · 4 min read
Having ambitions outside of parenting isn't selfish — it's necessary
Last spring, I ran into an old friend at a neighborhood block party — someone I hadn't seen in a few years. After the usual hellos, he asked, "So what are you up to these days? What's exciting in your world?"I talked about Cataleya's reading progress. I talked about Enzo's football. I mentioned the family calendar system we'd finally gotten working.He nodded along politely, then asked again: "Yeah, but what about you? What are you into?"I genuinely didn't know what to say. Not because nothing...
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Apr 24, 2026 · 5 min read
The lessons I didn't expect — and the ones I had to learn the hard way
Cataleya was born on a Tuesday. I remember thinking I was ready. I'd read the books, set up the nursery, had a plan. What I didn't have — and what no book could give me — was any real understanding of what the next nine years would actually teach me.Not about children. About myself.Parenting has been the most effective personal development programme I've ever been enrolled in. Completely involuntary. No opt-out. And honestly? Worth every difficult lesson.Here's what nine years in the trenches...
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Apr 12, 2026 · 5 min read
How I keep growing as a person without waiting for life to slow down
It was 9:47 PM on a Tuesday. Enzo had finally stopped calling for water, Cataleya had surrendered to sleep mid-sentence about her guinea pig, and I sat down at the kitchen table with my laptop, a cold cup of tea, and approximately 40 minutes before I'd be too tired to form coherent thoughts. Here's what's actually worked for me when it comes to growing as a person while raising kids.
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Mar 15, 2026 · 4 min read
Last Tuesday, my nine-year-old was telling me something about a kid at school — some drama involving a soccer ball and a misunderstanding at recess — and I realized mid-sentence that I had absolutely no idea what she'd said for the past thirty seconds. I was nodding, saying "mm-hmm," but I was mentally drafting an email. She caught it. "Mom. Are you even listening?" Yeah. That one stings. Staying present with your kids sounds so simple. Just... pay attention. But when your brain is carrying t...
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